Last week, my roommate (she’s awesome btw) wrote a blog post on How to be Horribly and Desperately Alone. I absolutely love her sarcastic comedy. But no matter what the title made you think, this post isn’t sarcastic at all.

You should throw your BFF away, and here’s why.

“Best Friend Forever” is a problematic title. What in the world does it mean on a day-to-day basis? When you wake up in the morning, what does BFF mean?

Is it okay to have more than one “best” friend? What happens to “forever” when we choose different paths? What if I’m your best friend and you’re not mine?

But more important than all that, we don’t know who our best friend really is. It’s God.

We don’t know who our best friend really is. It’s God.

It’s a unique friendship, but it’s still a friendship. (John 15:14)

The first friend I try to talk to every day is Jesus. The friend I’m always honest with is Jesus. The friend I need to rely on in tough times is Jesus and He’s also the only one who can always catch me when I fall. 

If God’s our best friend, is it wrong to still want a human best friend? No. And it’s not wrong to use the title either.

If you want to research more, here’s a whole article of examples from the Bible where God calls Abraham, Moses, and the disciples His friends.

Friendship is one of the gracious gifts God gave us.

The teacher at my apprenticeship also wrote a blog post about community last week. He argues that community shouldn’t be our biggest priority.

I think my constant talking about belonging might be contagious. 😉 But that’s one of the most important things I want to say: We can’t belong with other people until we belong with God. 

Forget about pursuing belonging if you’re not willing to pursue God. It’s not worth it.

Forget about pursuing belonging if you’re not willing to pursue God. It’s not worth it.

Just don’t bother. Your friendships will always be skewed and unhealthy and unfulfilling on some level.

But if God feels far away right now, you’re not hopeless. He uses other people to point us to Him. That’s okay, but in the big picture of lifetime and even in the small picture of each breath, He MUST become the first priority. 

If you don’t know God at all, here’s a video you can start with or a recording of the last sermon I listened to.

God is the center of everything–our community and friendships too.

He’s our BFF. 

• Best (without a doubt) 
• Friend (John 15:14) 
• Forever (guaranteed for eternity). 

Isn’t that amazing? But it’s not practical yet (this post dives into practical ways to connect with God as a BFF). 

When my parents told me that God is my best friend, it felt placating. I’m not trying to placate you. This is more than just a nice saying, it’s true. 

You know what God said in the verse before John 15:14?

“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13)

He did that for you.

We’re designed to want close deep friendships and God is the closest, deepest one we’ll ever have. God is your best friend.