by Vella Karman | Oct 23, 2024 | Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
I had a really good conversation with a friend recently. She brought up something I’d said that hurt her. You know, a year ago my first response probably would’ve been to tell her that I had been worrying about that since it had come out of my mouth. How I’d...
by Alli Prince | Oct 9, 2024 | Belonging, Bonfires & Stars, Guest Post
Are you in church or at church? This is a question that struck me a couple of months ago. I was blogging about community (check out that post here) and, in the middle of a writing rant, wrote that question and paused. I ended up cutting it from the original blog,...
by Vella Karman | Sep 11, 2024 | aWkwaRd, Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
I figured something out. If you don’t feel safe in friendships, one of the best ways to get that safety is stepping into friendships. I know, it sounds counterintuitive that doing the thing that scares you will take the fear away. But it’s true. You start...
by Vella Karman | Aug 14, 2024 | aWkwaRd, Belonging, Bonfires & Stars, Lone Wolves
My worst fear is really common. It plays across the minds of thousands of people night and day…what if I’m unloveable? This question niggles at the vulnerable parts of our hearts. It stops us from stepping into community. It stems from an anxious fear that tells us we...
by Vella Karman | Jul 31, 2024 | Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
The worst thing I’ve ever done to a friend is idolize them. I guess it’s confession time. First confession: I really don’t want to post my faults on the internet for everyone to read. But here I am. I guess there’s justice in the world. Second confession: I’m guilty...
by Vella Karman | Jul 17, 2024 | Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
I moved out of my parents’ house almost 11 months ago. My first year away from home has been a whirlwind, but an amazing community helped me through it. These people love me in a way that blows me away. I can’t imagine my life without them. So here are my...
