by Vella Karman | Sep 11, 2024 | aWkwaRd, Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
I figured something out. If you don’t feel safe in friendships, one of the best ways to get that safety is stepping into friendships. I know, it sounds counterintuitive that doing the thing that scares you will take the fear away. But it’s true. You start...
by Vella Karman | Aug 14, 2024 | aWkwaRd, Belonging, Bonfires & Stars, Lone Wolves
My worst fear is really common. It plays across the minds of thousands of people night and day…what if I’m unloveable? This question niggles at the vulnerable parts of our hearts. It stops us from stepping into community. It stems from an anxious fear that tells us we...
by Vella Karman | Aug 7, 2024 | Belonging, Lone Wolves
Did you know that when someone is choking, they often hide in a bathroom? I learned this in First Aid and CPR training classes. People will actually excuse themselves from a group, coughing, and hide in a bathroom stall to try and figure it out themselves. They’re too...
by Vella Karman | Jul 31, 2024 | Belonging, Bonfires & Stars
The worst thing I’ve ever done to a friend is idolize them. I guess it’s confession time. First confession: I really don’t want to post my faults on the internet for everyone to read. But here I am. I guess there’s justice in the world. Second confession: I’m guilty...
by Vella Karman | Jul 24, 2024 | aWkwaRd, Belonging
Close-knit groups are intimidating. When they’ve known each other for years. When you’re new or temporary or not a Harry Potter fan. When you’re in college but still act like a kid sometimes. We all want to belong–God gave us an inherent need for community. And we...
